Years ago people used to have children at an earlier age and usually, they had many of them. While I had six aunts and uncles, my children only have one uncle, who is also childless, so no cousins on my side. My parents, like most of their friends and siblings, had only two children. My generation also has mostly one or two children and usually at a later age. We were told it would be probably better if we finished our education first, had a job, and bought a house. So, even though we often wanted to have children earlier, we were told to wait until we were “established” enough to be able to provide a good life for our off-springs.
Whether you are a newlywed or married for a few or many years, I hope you’ll find this post interesting and useful. I myself have been married for over fifteen years and, if asked if happily, I’d have said YES without hesitation. Our marriage is strong and good. Reliable. Fun. Inspiring. The longer I think of it, the fewer adjectives I can come up with, though …
We work hard on our marriage. We read guides to a better relationship, we go to married couples retreats organized by our church. We attend classes and seminars, we watch videos intended to improve our bond. We go on dates. We try to keep the spark fresh and alive, but life has its way of sneaking in and making it all about the bills, home repairs, chores, kids and work. If, like myself, you are blessed with growing children and aging parents, then congratulations, you are the Sandwich Generation. I get to attend to ever growing needs of my teenage and young adult children, and run to doctors and hospitals with my ailing parents. And I am not a spring chick myself, so my own health issues are surfacing more and more.
So the stress is definitely present and if we, as wives, are not vigilant, it may overtake our lives and destroy not only peace and joy, but, most importantly, the Romance!
And that is just not acceptable! I refuse to be one of those wives who read romantic novels instead of living my own steamy scenes in my own bedroom with my own lovely husband. I want to be anxious to see my husband after work. I want to have a great time on our dates, I want … LOVE!
And, guess what, we all can have it!