Did you know that if you are on the phone and you are smiling, the person you are calling can tell you are actually smiling?
There is a subtle change in your voice that cannot be mistaken for anything else but a smile. It is a secret of the best sales people and it’s a skill required to be perfected during training. Because people are such reactive creatures, we reflect – subconsciously – what we see, hear, or sense. A smile on someone’s face will inevitably elicit one on yours.
Why do we like to see smiling people? Because we think they are happy. Because they are happy, we assume their lives must be better than ours -more exciting and satisfying. They are seen as the “lucky ones”. They must either have loads of money or connections to have this advantage of happiness.
Happiness is a personal responsibility of every person on this planet, though. Regardless of your status, background or ethnicity, you must create your own happiness. Don’t expect others to make you happy. Things and toys won’t make you happy. More money will not increase your happiness. More money will only make you more of who you already are.
Yes, there are trials, tribulations, health issues, financial straits, that could impact our lives. It’s hard to be happy when faced with a loss of loved one or a health scare. Those situations require spacial attention and even help from family or friends. But even then, in our darkest hour, we need to recognize the beauty of love, friendship, and kindness. Even through the tears we should acknowledge that life is hard, yet beautiful. Full of surprises, friction, sadness, but also full of fun, excitement and opportunities.
If we decide to go through life with a more positive attitude, we will see the many blessings we experience daily. If we start looking for beauty around us, we will see it. If we share our approach with our loved ones, friends and co-workers, maybe they can change their attitude also.
Make being happy a priority. If you have children, equip them with proper tools to find joy in life despite problems, challenges and obstacles. Be an example. Be the one with a smile on your countenance, even though you really want to complain and be angry. Be the gracious one who looks for goodness, kindness and valor. The more you practice the art of being happy, the more contagious your lifestyle will become.
Soon enough, when people see YOU, they’ll say: “She looks so happy… “